Valorem's Heart Healing Project

[betplom]

I'm all about the dog, 'bout the dog, no kitties.

 

[Valorem]

Dam straight about the dog. It is like he died. That is the hardest thing I am going to miss.

BTW If I was Torrie Wilson I would definitely No Contact A-Rod and pick me up for dinner

 

[bacon]

Matty's pooch Pogo died as well. From what I hear dude was awesome.

 

[Valorem]

Ok Game Live....Question

Coming up to Day Four on this which would start at 4PM..

Should I stop checking for her emails now or at 4PM to make all the landmarks the same?

Checking for them but not replying is healing but sort of like picking the scab to slow the process...

 

[Valorem]

Found the saved by the bell reunion on Fallon to be funny

 

[Cami]

Is there a chance there would be something important that you are always checking for emails from her?
It's only been a few days, at this point, you don't need to do or not do anything, just give it time, and deal with the situation however feels best to you. If it's hurtful to be looking for or at her emails, then maybe just don't worry about it for a few days.

 

[Valorem]

Is there a chance there would be something important that you are always checking for emails from her?
It's only been a few days, at this point, you don't need to do or not do anything, just give it time, and deal with the situation however feels best to you. If it's hurtful to be looking for or at her emails, then maybe just don't worry about it for a few days.

There is nothing of importance. I would even say that at this point of life, she would seek solace or help from others. I for one would no longer put her as emergency contact say if I got into an accident..

I am going to check slightly before 4pm one more time and then sync up this clock at 4pm with the rest in this

 

[Cami]

So, I suppose you are just hoping to hear from her? I don't understand why, if there would be nothing of importance, you continue to check for emails. Stop doing that to yourself. Stop keeping track of the time, and the days, and just live your life, and go do things that make you feel good and happy.

 

[Valorem]

So, I suppose you are just hoping to hear from her? I don't understand why, if there would be nothing of importance, you continue to check for emails. Stop doing that to yourself. Stop keeping track of the time, and the days, and just live your life, and go do things that make you feel good and happy.

There is no rational reason why I would check the emails.

As for tracking the time...the people that have done this recommend a period of NC (like 30 days) and then LC after that if the other person reaches out. The argument is that the truly healed can demonstrate the ability to interact on a limited level rather than ostrich the life away.

So I will keep tracking the days but I will start the not checking the emails now and just click it over at 4pm with the rest of the time frames

 

[Cami]

Oh ok, I see why you are counting the days. How are you tracking the days? Xing off a calendar?

 

[Valorem]

electronic journal

 

[Cami]

Oh I see.

 

[Valorem]

I am going to apply to get my MAN Card back as I have gotten too soft emotionally for my liking

 

[Cami]

 

[Valorem]

have a good day and thanks for the chat

 

[Cami]

You too!

 

[bacon]

Valorem gets it.

 

[Valorem]

I tell you this. 4PM today came with a sense of finality. Maybe this is what is needed. The only real path for checking communication is now gone. Sure the cell phone can ring from a mutual associate and she can fool me but my days of checking that last avenue are gone. In some ways, it is day four and in others it is really the start..

I will mention if I break or she hunts me down at work or church..other than that...time to roll up my sleeves and get to work...