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My mum got going again about her funeral planning yesterday. She does that once in awhile. It sucks. I know it sucks to be her but it is dripping with self-pity in a really distasteful way. It makes me wince.

Some say that medical science has developed to the point where we live too long. I see some truth to that.

A lot of deaths are not straight sadness like maybe they should be. There has been such a long period of uselessly holding on that there is a lot of relief mixed in with the sadness. Depending on the details, sometimes the relief part is greater. I guess you could say that is merciful. I don't know.

It depends on the individual. Some people keep living right up to the end. My mum unfortunately has been actively dying for awhile. I feel like there will be a good measure of relief when it finally happens. Who knows when that will be though. She could hang on another 10 years and degenerate through every stage of Alzheimer's and the whole bit. Her mother dragged on and on like that. There was very little but relief when she finally died.

If I'm honest.
 
My mum got going again about her funeral planning yesterday. She does that once in awhile. It sucks. I know it sucks to be her but it is dripping with self-pity in a really distasteful way. It makes me wince.

Some say that medical science has developed to the point where we live too long. I see some truth to that.

A lot of deaths are not straight sadness like maybe they should be. There has been such a long period of uselessly holding on that there is a lot of relief mixed in with the sadness. Depending on the details, sometimes the relief part is greater. I guess you could say that is merciful. I don't know.

It depends on the individual. Some people keep living right up to the end. My mum unfortunately has been actively dying for awhile. I feel like there will be a good measure of relief when it finally happens. Who knows when that will be though. She could hang on another 10 years and degenerate through every stage of Alzheimer's and the whole bit. Her mother dragged on and on like that. There was very little but relief when she finally died.

If I'm honest.
I totally get this.

One of my dogs died a few weeks ago. He was in care of my former roommate who was unable to do things like camping etc because the dog was unable to go. He often had to alter his lifestyle and schedule to accommodate the dog. After having that dog for 17 plus years (and bawling like a baby when the other dog died last year,) most of what he really felt was relief. Doesn't mean he didn't love the dog or he won't be sad. ...but we also have a responsibility to ourselves...our life is no less important than the one for which we are charged with caring.

I often feel bad for hoping that mom's time will come sooner rather than later. She has no quality of life, and has told me every day for over 2 years that she wants to die but "just keeps on living." Many times I find myself trying to justify how I feel, but I don't really think that should be necessary. My siblings feel the same way. We really are "scared" that she might live another 10 years. I don't want her in a nursing home, so I feel my life is on hold until her time comes...but that is difficult to accept. People have been shocked when I express sentiment like that...as if I am some cold hearted person waiting for my mom to die. Anyone who thinks like this has obviously not cared long term for a chronically ill family member. I am glad to have had this time with my mom...it's been a special few years...but I know when the day comes that she is free, and thus so am I, there will be a dose of relief in there as well.

If I'm honest.