I guess as a singer you can rationalize that you are going in an Aretha Franklin direction. While you have been trained to feel a performer perhaps should look presentable - and you have been guided by that thinking through for the formative part of your career - you don't absolutely have to be attractive because look at Aretha Franklin.
Before he died of cancer, fiveteamer used a number of failsafe methods when he got tricked by a date - like covering his face with one hand and pretending to be busy looking at something while he let his wingman Matty entertain his fugly online prey.