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major anxiety/panic attacks over the fact I just brought a ton of my stuff back from my Denver townhome. Now I have two households that have no common thread at all , and I can't bring myself to totally disassemble mom's house while she is still alive...more for my siblings than for her...she doesn't know where she is most of the time.

But all this STUFF is really stressing me out. I pick up each item, and can't tell if it's some valuable trinket or a piece of garbage. I have all this antique jewelry that may be worth something, or it may be worth nothing. So I can't bring myself to do anything with it.

Even the (what I consider) ugly furniture downstairs I am now told is "atomic" which is very in and could be valuable. So I just keep adding more stuff to the stuff I can't bring myself to get rid of. I'm fucked. I hate clutter. I hate a hodgepodge of home dcor.

My brother's wedding pictures are hanging in the room I now sleep in (which used to be my mom and dad's room...they have been there forever...so are my brother's graduation pictures. Now if I were in my OWN home, I wouldn't have my siblings wedding pictures hanging in my bedroom...but I feel weird moving them.

I don't know what I expect all of you to do about this, but I needed to vent as this is really fucking with me. I know the minute I decide to just trash everything, someone will ask what I did with such and such and say they really wanted that. Yeah..fucked.

And there is stuff that I know is valuable, but no one will want. And I have no idea what to do with it. I'm not inclined to sell it all online as I have no idea how much to ask. Non cash donations over $500-5000 are a PITA to donate for the write off...

Way too much stuff in this world. I really am thinking of becoming an honest to God minimalist when this is all over.
 
Tell your siblings that you aren't comfortable in the skin you are living in..share the burden...transition at your own pace...room at a time or whatever works.

Don't feel bad...if your mother was bed ridden but mentally in good health you would be an evil
Bitch. As it stands you are doing nothing more then protecting you're own mental health. Your words in this thread about your uncomfortableness in this progression allow me to tell you that you can change some decor to fit your likings without any self inflicted stigma about what is right and wrong. Now go forth and remove said graduation picture as the first stone chiseled out in the wall of change.
 
You're right House...But is it ok if I remove the wedding pictures first? One of the marriages is not even in tact any longer. Plus the frames they are in are really horrible. I think I will start there. The graduation pictures are weird...maybe I just move those to a wall in the big rec room downstairs. There's a thought.
 
Tell your siblings that you aren't comfortable in the skin you are living in..share the burden...transition at your own pace...room at a time or whatever works.

Don't feel bad...if your mother was bed ridden but mentally in good health you would be an evil
Bitch. As it stands you are doing nothing more then protecting you're own mental health. Your words in this thread about your uncomfortableness in this progression allow me to tell you that you can change some decor to fit your likings without any self inflicted stigma about what is right and wrong. Now go forth and remove said graduation picture as the first stone chiseled out in the wall of change.

I agree 1000%!!!
 
The only comment I have - which hopefully doesn't sound too smarmy - is don't worry about it so much.

Yes, I'm a chucker -but I understand the reasons for not chucking right now. So just shrug it all off. It's just stuff. It's not hurting anything.

When the time comes, break the job into manageable pieces. One day at a time. Make some progress. Do what can be done within a one-day framework. Give yourself a pat on the back for what is done - don't fret over what remains.

Maybe there is some small place to start today - or maybe just leave it for now. Your call.

Whatever. Little bits of progress will add up to big results - you'll see.
 
I can handle MY stuff.I know what it's worth and don't have to consider anyone else in deciding whether or not to keep. ..it's just trying to coordinate households, and also digging thru stuff that has been in storage for a couple years... It will be a long process...

and yes Mr. Quincy, I think I see a garage sale in my future. Usually they don't end up being worth your time, but listing this all individually and/or donating doesn't seem to make sense either....and I guess I have the time...

I have $3000 in to a treadmill (already have one downstairs) and a recumbent bike I would like to try to get %20 out of... The bike was bought from Rockie's former pitcher Roger Bailey, and it comes with an autographed baseball card. lol.