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My 45 year-old sister is pregnant for the first time.

In fact this would be the first grandchild for my parents since my brother and I have both steered clear of that situation.

Man I hope everything goes right and they have a healthy child. I always felt bad for my mom not having grandkids. I have experienced some guilt over that. You know she wants them. My dad too, I'm sure. It's not just the idea of bouncing a baby on their knee but the bigger, deeper issue of the family line coming to an end.

I guess this child would end up my heir.

Uncle Mudcat.

45 is a late age to be having kids though. I am nervous just thinking about it and I suspect I will be for the entire term.
 
Congrats! Did a Google search for "Uncle Muddy" and got these. Quite fitting, I think.

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Congrats uncle Muddy.

When I had my kid her mother was in her 40's (not 45 mind you) and everything went reasonable. It's becoming more common these days so everything will be fine. Enjoy spoiling the kid and sending the spoiled brat home LOL
 
Congrats, Muddy! There's not a doubt in my mind that you're going to be the "cool Uncle" that the child prefers even to his own parents. There's an ineffable non-chalance which overtakes a person after years of dealing with addicts and their drama, which makes you perfect suited to be an awesome adult influence on this new life.

As an aside, I'd just like to throw out my thoughts on the whole imperative to "carry on the family line." In my estimation, there are fewer crocks of bullshit larger than this cultural "must-do." It seems most arrogant to me that I would consider the genes of my family or myself to be superior to anyone else's. We are all human, just as we are all God's children, and none of us should feel bound to reproduce in the hopes of ensuring the survival of our unique quirks, talents, or even shortcomings. The world is bigger than that these days, and if you feel compelled to contribute to our collective improvement, then please just do it yourself. I see far too many people in my immediate surroundings that are procreating simply to avoid being left out, people that are more motivated by the end -result of having offspring without ever having made a personal committment to cultivating their character in the manner which befits good and thoughtful parents.

My parents want grandbabies, badly, and my Dad seems obsessed with having some from myself as well as my brother, even though I have no interest in kids. Quite honestly, they piss me off, just like most adults, and I can do without the aggravation. Doesn't stop him from pestering me though, and so if my conviction comes across with vehemence, you have my apologies. I think for parents to even bring it up is tacky and entirely self-serving. Having kids would destroy my happiness, and yet I think my Dad would be okay with that if it meant he had grandchildren through me. It's partly that example he sets as a father that makes me want nothing to do with the process.

So don't feel guilty, Muddy. You're just as entitled to your path as anyone else, and kids are still completely optional.
 
Yeah, my Dad knows, but there was a time when I'd given thought to surrogacy and raising children as part of a gay couple. Then I realized one of the best parts of being gay was "in the butt=no kids" and I was gonna be damned if society was going to botch my fun.
 
Usually I don't have sick thoughts like this but what say 15 years from now the niece or nephew starts referring to you as Uncle Buttcat?:lmao: Just giving you the heads up to come up with a good answer for your sister when she asks you this? Don't thank me, but thank Bread! I just follow along well!

PS Hopefully you won't ever give the kid the "heads up"!:nono:
 
Congrats Muddy! I have two nieces myself and I love to spoil them. I also love the fact that I can "give them back" whenever I get sick of them. Kids just aren't for me and I know that but being an Uncle is pretty cool.
 
Thank you for the well wishes. I am seriously nervous about this. My level of anxiety has caught me by surprise. I am usually so even-tempered and calm. But I am all shook up here. I just got the news a few hours ago.

You'd think I was pregnant.

The big issue in my mind is her age. That's all. She is in great shape for a 45 year old. She regularly runs half-marathons and even did a few full marathons last year. So I hope that means good things as it relates to a pregnancy.

This all makes me understand why some people pray.
 
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Congrats, Muddy! There's not a doubt in my mind that you're going to be the "cool Uncle" that the child prefers even to his own parents. There's an ineffable non-chalance which overtakes a person after years of dealing with addicts and their drama, which makes you perfect suited to be an awesome adult influence on this new life.

As an aside, I'd just like to throw out my thoughts on the whole imperative to "carry on the family line." In my estimation, there are fewer crocks of bullshit larger than this cultural "must-do." It seems most arrogant to me that I would consider the genes of my family or myself to be superior to anyone else's. We are all human, just as we are all God's children, and none of us should feel bound to reproduce in the hopes of ensuring the survival of our unique quirks, talents, or even shortcomings. The world is bigger than that these days, and if you feel compelled to contribute to our collective improvement, then please just do it yourself. I see far too many people in my immediate surroundings that are procreating simply to avoid being left out, people that are more motivated by the end -result of having offspring without ever having made a personal committment to cultivating their character in the manner which befits good and thoughtful parents.

My parents want grandbabies, badly, and my Dad seems obsessed with having some from myself as well as my brother, even though I have no interest in kids. Quite honestly, they piss me off, just like most adults, and I can do without the aggravation. Doesn't stop him from pestering me though, and so if my conviction comes across with vehemence, you have my apologies. I think for parents to even bring it up is tacky and entirely self-serving. Having kids would destroy my happiness, and yet I think my Dad would be okay with that if it meant he had grandchildren through me. It's partly that example he sets as a father that makes me want nothing to do with the process.

So don't feel guilty, Muddy. You're just as entitled to your path as anyone else, and kids are still completely optional.
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You are correct of course: I would be the coolest of uncles. :freak:



Just to defend my parents briefly, my comments about how they would like grandchildren are all from my imaginings. I don't recall them ever applying any pressure about it or even hinting vaguely about it for that matter. Just knowing my mom like I do, I feel sure she would like a grandbaby.

Actually, if they would dickishly apply pressure, I probably would feel less guilty about the situation. But they are so nice about it.

Bastards.
 
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