wal66
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Quick! What’s your initial impression? Does it instantly put you in defensive mode? Does it make you feel a bit uncomfortable but at the same time pleased to know that someone other than you immediate family (and sometimes excluding your immediate family) actually loves you? Or can you accept the fact that someone you didn’t grow up with, aren’t related to and aren’t currently sleeping with actually has affection for you?
Telling someone you love them can be a very reactive statement. Often the person receiving this news just has no comfort level with the concept. Especially if the individual that is telling them this is of the same gender. OMG! That’s got to be gay, right? Society today tends to make us believe this but it’s not usually the case. Actually in today’s society you’re likely to never hear it at all.
Oh sure, if you are trying to get in someone’s pants then there is a good chance you will utter the words but to think affectionately of someone in a completely heterosexual non-sexual way? Absurd!
Personally I use the word. I have no problem telling a friend that I love them like a brother. But wait! Like a brother? Didn’t I just include a built in disclaimer? I did and I know I did. I mean you want the person to know that you would be there, that your are there but you also want them to know you wouldn’t GO there.
What if they are female? I mean can you openly and honestly tell a woman you love her without the backdoor innuendo of “I want to have sex with you”? I love women in general. I have female friends that I love unconditionally but that doesn’t mean I am trying to sleep with them. I would, but I’m not trying. Can you as a female fully accept that there is a man in your life who just loves you without feeling threatened that one day you will have to reject their advances?
Why is love so friggin complicated? I mean I have found times when I have typed the word luv instead of love because I felt compelled to make it clear that it wasn’t being said with a box of chocolates, roses on bended knee type of love.
I’m not sure if the whole love thing is personal or societal? I tend to think it’s more of a society hang up because I see how others react to the word.
Do you suppose that maybe on a subconscious level we act the way we do when hearing the word is kind of a self protection mechanism? Maybe without even realizing it the word means more to us than we realize and any negative or uncomfortable reaction to hearing it used in our direction is because we want to preserve it on a higher level.
So how do you react when someone tells you they love you? Guy to guy, guy to girl, girl to girl, girl to guy and all possible scenarios in between.
Telling someone you love them can be a very reactive statement. Often the person receiving this news just has no comfort level with the concept. Especially if the individual that is telling them this is of the same gender. OMG! That’s got to be gay, right? Society today tends to make us believe this but it’s not usually the case. Actually in today’s society you’re likely to never hear it at all.
Oh sure, if you are trying to get in someone’s pants then there is a good chance you will utter the words but to think affectionately of someone in a completely heterosexual non-sexual way? Absurd!
Personally I use the word. I have no problem telling a friend that I love them like a brother. But wait! Like a brother? Didn’t I just include a built in disclaimer? I did and I know I did. I mean you want the person to know that you would be there, that your are there but you also want them to know you wouldn’t GO there.
What if they are female? I mean can you openly and honestly tell a woman you love her without the backdoor innuendo of “I want to have sex with you”? I love women in general. I have female friends that I love unconditionally but that doesn’t mean I am trying to sleep with them. I would, but I’m not trying. Can you as a female fully accept that there is a man in your life who just loves you without feeling threatened that one day you will have to reject their advances?
Why is love so friggin complicated? I mean I have found times when I have typed the word luv instead of love because I felt compelled to make it clear that it wasn’t being said with a box of chocolates, roses on bended knee type of love.
I’m not sure if the whole love thing is personal or societal? I tend to think it’s more of a society hang up because I see how others react to the word.
Do you suppose that maybe on a subconscious level we act the way we do when hearing the word is kind of a self protection mechanism? Maybe without even realizing it the word means more to us than we realize and any negative or uncomfortable reaction to hearing it used in our direction is because we want to preserve it on a higher level.
So how do you react when someone tells you they love you? Guy to guy, guy to girl, girl to girl, girl to guy and all possible scenarios in between.
